The Secret of Teaching

I am a kindergarten teacher as well as a Christian. Every month our kindergarten would select excellent teachers according to parents’ evaluation of teachers’ comprehensive quality and children’s behavior at home. Those who were well considered would be trusted and respected by our headmaster, while those who were poorly thought of might be dismissed. In order to be elected an excellent teacher, I racked my brain to teach the children: When they cried, I used candies or toys to comfort them; when they fought, I set them apart and taught them to love each other; during the break, I took them to play on slide; I tried my best to make them happy in kindergarten and gave them little homework. After a whole day’s hard work, I often felt exhausted. However, no matter how hard I worked, I still didn’t earn the title of “Outstanding Teacher.” Every month the headmaster and parents would have a talk with me, which made me feel embarrassed and distressed. I thought: I never beat or scold the children but take care of them with so much patience that I often exhaust myself after a whole day’s work. However, I was never assessed as excellence, for they didn’t behave well at home. If things continue like this, I’ll certainly be fired. What can I do to improve my teaching? Then I asked those “outstanding” teachers for some advice. One of them told me that the key to earning the title of “Outstanding Teacher” was disciplining children. “Because they are too young to understand things, you’d better be strict with them rather than spoil them, otherwise they would think you are easy to deal with and show no respect to you. Only when you make them fear you and obey your words, can you win parents’ satisfaction, as well as headmaster’s respect and trust.” Hearing her words, I doubted in my heart: Doesn’t it mean that I should inflict corporal punishment on the children? Parents send their children to kindergarten to provide them with a better environment, not to make them suffer. Besides, I am a Christian; I can’t do as what she suggested. But then it occurred to me: Believing in God and teaching children are two different things. What she said is the actual situation. These children are so naughty that they always wore me out. So, in order to keep my job and earn the title of “Outstanding Teacher,” I determined to treat the children according to what that teacher said. Once, during the nap time, seeing a child whispering to another, I came to him, hauled him out of bed and punished him by keeping him standing with hands raising for half an hour. Another time I punished a child who didn’t finish his homework by making him stand in the corner, and said to other children, “Don’t play with him! Whoever doesn’t obey my words will be punished in the same way.” Once, as a child accidently broke off another one’s pencil, I ordered him to squat for thirty minutes. Specially trained by me, these children became much more obedient, to the extent that upon hearing my voice they would hurry back to their seats. Seeing the result of my “efforts,” I felt satisfied. Though parents still didn’t approve of my teaching, I comforted myself: Maybe it’s only because I just begin to teach children in this way, and the effect is not significant. Though parents’ evaluation of my work is not so high, it is at least better than before. As long as I persist, I’ll succeed in the end. And thus I planned to tighten the discipline. One day, a parent came to the kindergarten to inquire something about his child, “Ms Zhu, I felt there is something wrong with my son. Before, every time I sent him here, he felt happy. However, recently he often cried, unwilling to come. I don’t know what happened to him. Ms Zhu, what should I do?” After hearing the parent, I felt distressed and couldn’t help but think of scenes when I inflicted corporal punishment on the children, especially that time when I had the child who didn’t finish the homework standing in the corner and asked other children not to play with him. At that time he, lowering his head and clenching the edge of his garment, casted glances at me timidly. At this thought, I recalled my own experience at primary school: Once I was asked to stand out of the classroom by my teacher for failing to recite a text. Laughed at by my classmates like a clown, I was so sad, tears flowing freely down my cheeks. Since then, I was sick of that teacher and also afraid of him. At these thoughts, I began to regret meting out physical punishment to the children, for what I did actually made some of them afraid of going to school. What an awful teacher I was in their hearts! I was really a failure as a teacher. After that parent left, I asked myself: How should I teach these children in the future? Returning home, I thought that as I believed in God, I should rely on Him in all things. Then I prayed to God, speaking my difficulties to Him. Later, I read a passage of God’s word: “Maybe you are a president, or a scientist, a pastor, or an elder, but no matter how high your office, if you rely on your knowledge and ability in your undertakings, then you shall always be a failure, and shall always be bereft of the blessings of God” (“God Presides Over the Fate of All Mankind”). From God’s words, I came to know that if we rely on our ability in all things without having God in our hearts or believing His rule over all things, we will attain nothing and be bereft of His blessings. Then I thought: In the matter of teaching children, didn’t I rely on my…

What Should We Do If Our Children’s Academic Performance Doesn’t Meet Our Expectation

What Should We Do If Our Children’s Academic Performance Doesn’t Meet Our Expectation?

Nowadays, most parents care about their children’s academic performance very much. It’s very common for them to send their children to all kinds of tutoring centers or training classes at all costs to get excellent grades. Once the academic result doesn’t live up to parents’ expectation, they will get worked up. I have seen a post from a parent on a forum saying, “This term my daughter’s academic performance rapidly declined and her class ranking slipped all the way. On an impulse, I ranted and raved at her. Looking at her depressed face, I felt for her. I can understand she’s been under a lot of pressure. I wish I hadn’t placed too much importance on her results …” Why Do Parents Place so Much Importance on Children’s Results? What Would the Impact Be? From this post, I can feel his helplessness and great expectations of his daughter. Then why do most parents attach great importance to children’s academic achievements? They know they will give children a lot of pressure, and it will easily cause a rift between parents and children, but why they still have been putting pressure on children to get high scores? One day, I saw a paragraph of words on the Internet. It really hits the nail on the head when it reveals the crux of the problem. It is said, “Is hoping that their children can all become the cream of the crop the right viewpoint to have? People all hope that their children can be successful. Everyone hopes their children can go to a famous university, then take up advanced studies, earn a degree, and afterward stand out among others and gain a firm foothold in society. People all have this viewpoint and all want their children to pursue higher education because of the saying: ‘The worth of other pursuits is small, the study of books excels them all.’ Furthermore, competition in this modern society is especially intense. If they don’t have a university degree or have a firm foothold in society, making a living becomes a problem in the future. This is everybody’s thinking and point of view. That is, what you learn and what kind of educational background you can achieve will decide your livelihood, your future. In other words, people intend to rely on this thing to survive throughout life, and they see it as especially important. That’s why everyone sees receiving a high-level education and getting into a top university as the number one most important thing for their children” (“Knowing Yourself Requires Knowing Your Deep-rooted Thoughts and Views”). From these words we can see that, influenced by the view, “The worth of other pursuits is small, the study of books excels them all,” many parents think that if their kids can get an excellent academic performance in school, kids will go to a famous university, pick a nice major and get a good job. Thus, they will have a bright future and a good fate.  As a result, once kids’ results decline, parents are worried to death that their kids’ future will be affected. Naturally, the scores have become a top priority in parents’ eyes. They will get anxious and throw a fit when their kids disappoint their expectations, which harms kids’ mental and physical health seriously. From the cases that happened around us, or on the Internet as well as TV, we can see that many kids are dejected and feel down because of great pressure in study. Gradually, kids keep their parents at arm’s length and get started to rebel against them. What’s worse, some kids will probably commit suicide. Meanwhile, parents are often smitten by deep remorse because of kids’ frustration after they give kids a lecture. In fact, these chain phenomena are all terrible consequences brought about by the fact that people live according to the view, “The worth of other pursuits is small, the study of books excels them all”. Can Academic Results Really Decide One’s Future and Fate? Then another passage of word caught my eyes, “Some people choose a good major in college and end up finding a satisfactory job after graduation, making a triumphant first stride in the journey of their lives. Some people learn and master many different skills and yet never find a job that suits them or find their position, much less have a career; at the outset of their life journey they find themselves thwarted at every turn, beset by troubles, their prospects dismal and their lives uncertain. Some people apply themselves diligently to their studies, yet narrowly miss all their chances to receive a higher education, and seem fated never to achieve success, their very first aspiration in the journey of their lives dissolving into thin air. Not knowing whether the road ahead is smooth or rocky, they feel for the first time how full of variables human destiny is, and so regard life with hope and dread. Some people, despite not being very well educated, write books and achieve a measure of fame; some, though almost totally illiterate, make money in business and are thereby able to support themselves…. What occupation one chooses, how one makes a living: do people have any control over whether they make a good choice or a bad choice? Do they accord with their desires and decisions? Most people wish they could work less and earn more, not to toil in the sun and rain, dress well, glow and shine everywhere, tower above others, and bring honor to their ancestors. People’s desires are so perfect, but when people take their first steps in the journey of their lives, they gradually come to realize how imperfect human destiny is, and for the first time they truly grasp the fact that, though one can make bold plans for one’s future, though one may harbor audacious fantasies, no one has the ability or the power to realize his or her own dreams, no one is in a position to control his or…

Another Parenting Style Improved My Relationship with My Son

Susan, the United States I was born into an ordinary family in a rural village. Throughout my childhood,, my family was rather poor. As my parents failed in business, and were up to their necks in debts. And the villagers all avoided our family. Being young, I really expected that I could live the life which was the same as that of the people of my age—buying the clothes, snacks and a bicycle I liked. However, our family financial situation didn’t get better from beginning to end and we endured our being rejected by the villagers all the time, feeling that we had no way to raise our heads to conduct ourselves. When I was at junior high school, I often heard my teachers say, “If you don’t study hard, in the future you can only find hard work …” Seeing that they had high education and could have high incomes with ease, I admired them very much inside. I also saw that some people in my village were assigned to foreign trading companies to go to work after graduating from college, thus having a steady living and not having to worry about food and clothing. From that point on, I deeply believed that “Knowledge can change your fate.” But later because my family financial condition was bad, I didn’t continue my studies. However, I didn’t give up my pursuits: I placed my hopes on the next generation, thinking inside, “When I grow up and have my own child after getting married, I must ask him to study hard to test into a good college so that he can have a good job, not living a poor life just like me.” In 2001 I came to America. After having lived in this strange place for five years, I had my own family and child. Because both my husband and I were busy with our works and had no time to take care of our child, we could only send him who was only several months old back to China and let his aunt take care of him. During that time, I was of one mind to do my best to make money and thereby later I could bring him back and let him go to the best school. When he was 5 years old, we brought him here. I hoped that he could receive the best education here. I learnt that private schools were better than public   schools. Hence, I found a private school for him. But because his English was not very good, he couldn’t understand what the teachers taught and hardly learnt anything after a term; thus I had no choice but to choose a public school for him. In order to let him not lose at the starting line, I painstakingly used the translation software to help me teach him to learn English; after classes, I also arranged cram schools for him, hoping to improve him in English. When he was in the first grade, for the sake of letting him catch up with the teachers’ paces of teaching, I helped him with his homework every day and moreover I also often contacted my friends’ children and asked them to help him solve the difficulties with his studying English. Besides, every day after he got home from school and finished eating and having a bath, I would require him to take out a book distributed by his teacher to read the whole of it repeatedly and insist on doing this for half an hour every day because I thought that only in this way could he remember the contents of it. When he couldn’t read it well all the time, I was not in the least bit lenient and still required him to read; if he still couldn’t read it well, I would lose my temper. Having seen that he was resisting me in his heart and was careless on purpose, always thinking of playing, I became even more anxious and couldn’t control my mood, saying to him, “Why aren’t you considerate of me? Though I’m so strict with you, am I not doing this for your own good!?” He had no choice but to continue to read perfunctorily. Every time after I finished losing my temper with him and saw he continued reading with grievances, I was very sad. I also didn’t want to make such harsh demands of him, but I had no choice because he didn’t make progress as much as expected. This kind of life lasted for a term and I almost didn’t give him any chance to play. During this time, I had also thought that I should let him relax, thinking that children should have a relaxed and happy childhood. But then I thought: If he can’t test into a good university and thus he can’t have a good job, then in the future won’t he be like me being able to raise the family only by working hard for a lifetime? After turning the thought over and over in my mind, I thought I still had to require him to use the time for playing to read and firmly believed that as long as he studied hard, he would surely keep up with the teachers’ paces of teaching. I always thought that, he was not slow-witted so his grades would surely be better than others’ through studying hard. I believed that “There is no motivation without pressure,” so I required him that he must at least get over 90 points for Chinese (exam), and 100 points on the math exam, and that he should have very neat handwriting when doing his homework every day to avoid being docked points because of bad handwriting when taking the tests. I would often compare him with my friends’ children. Every time when I learnt that their test results were better than his, I would feel very unbalanced inside and blame him for his not studying hard; sometimes, I would beat and scold…

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A Mother’s Heart Voice

In the 1950s, Zhang Li was born into a poor peasant family. After marriage, since her husband’s family was poor, Zhang Li and her husband, living by farming, worked hard and rushed around to earn money all year round, yet still lived a quite difficult life. Seeing their three beautiful daughters growing up, Zhang Li thought inwardly: Without money, I could only live a poor life; when my daughters find their life partners, I must ensure that their future husbands, handsome or ugly, are rich people who have houses, cars, and deposits, lest they live a poor life like me. Gradually, her three daughters reached the marriage age. One day, her eldest daughter called her and said: “Mom, I found a boyfriend.” Zhang Li asked directly: “How much money does he make every month?” Her daughter answered timidly: “2,000 yuan.” When Zhang Li heard this, her temper rose, and her heart was in great turmoil: So many times have I exhorted you to seek a wealthy mate; how could you choose an indigent boy? Do you still want to live a poor life? Zhang Li kept her temper, and pretended to be calm: “How could you live on 2,000 yuan a month in Beijing?” Her daughter seemed to know the hidden import of Zhang Li’s words, and said unhappily: “OK, I’ll break up with him.” After speaking these words, her daughter immediately hung up the phone. However, a year later, her eldest daughter still brought the boy back. Although Zhang Li was angry and unwilling to marry her daughter to a poor boy, seeing that her daughter wanted to be with that boy and that he promised to treat her daughter well, Zhang Li reluctantly agreed to their marriage. For a long time, Zhang Li couldn’t resign herself to the fact that her eldest daughter married a poor boy, and thought to herself: My eldest daughter lives so far from me that I can’t control her marriage, but as for my other two daughters, I must make sure that they marry the affluent. When her other two daughters were looking for a partner, Zhang Li was always extremely cautious. Every time the matchmaker introduced a potential boyfriend to her daughter, the first question Zhang Li asked was how the economic condition of the boy’s family was; if the boy had no money or house, Zhang Li would refuse bluntly. And so her daughters met many boys, yet few of them conformed to Zhang Li’s will. Several years passing by, one day her second daughter told Zhang Li that she found a boyfriend who had an excellent economic condition and could buy a wedding house, and that they got along well with each other. These words made Zhang Li perfectly happy. Not long afterward, they planned to get married. During the preparation for the wedding, the boy insisted that Zhang Li should pay the cost of decorating the wedding house, which made Zhang Li bitterly angry. She thought the boy was so stingy that her daughter wouldn’t live a happy life if they got married; as a result, she took her daughter home. After returning home, her daughter shut herself in her bedroom and wailed inside. Zhang Li felt sorry for her daughter, but she then thought: Without money, there is no wedded bliss to speak of. Despite your distress now, you’ll understand my painstaking care someday. Due to Zhang Li’s disapproval, her daughter broke up with that boy; the failure of this relationship caused great pain to her daughter, and she refused to find a boyfriend since then. Each time Zhang Li advised her to go on a blind date, she would say: “Since whatever you say goes, what’s the point of my dating a boy?” Hearing this, Zhang Li suffered an unspeakable sorrow, such that she couldn’t fall asleep at night, and her heart was full of complaints toward her daughter: All I have done is for you to live a happy life; without money, there is no happiness to speak of. How could you not understand my earnest intention? Gradually, due to Zhang Li’s constant interference in her daughter’s marriage, her second daughter no longer spoke intimately with her; when encountering events, she would talk with her father rather than with Zhang Li. In agony, Zhang Li was exceedingly troubled: All I’ve done is for the good of my daughters; how could my painstaking care be paid with such a result? Despite the pain, Zhang Li still treated her youngest daughter’s marriage the same way. Because of her interference, neither of her two daughters found a suitable partner. Seeing her daughters’ peers get married one by one, Zhang Li felt rather anxious inside: My two daughters are both over thirty; if they can’t find a suitable partner now, as they grow older, it’ll be more difficult for them to find one. At that time, Zhang Li feared meeting her relatives and friends. Every time they asked whether her two daughters had boyfriends, she felt like her heart was stabbed by a knife. Worries about her daughters’ marriage and insomnia left Zhang Li a headache. She was often lost in a myriad of thoughts: I wanted my daughters to lead a happy life instead of living tiredly and painfully, but why was my painstaking care paid with their complaints? Could it be that I was wrong? Zhang Li kept pondering this every day, but couldn’t think it out.   One day, Zhang Li’s relative gave her a book of truth, saying that the words in it are expressed by God. When Zhang Li read God’s words, the confusion and melancholy in her heart gradually disappeared. Zhang Li saw God’s words say: “‘Money makes the mare go’ is the philosophy of Satan and it prevails among every human society. You could say that it is a trend because it has been imparted to everyone and is now affixed in their heart. People went from not accepting this saying to…

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How Did an Undesirable Youngster Turn Over a New Leaf? (II)

Once, in class, I talked with my classmates again, not listening to my teacher attentively. After seeing this, my teacher asked me to go out of the classroom to be stood. Standing up in front of the whole class, I felt ashamed and very unhappy within, thinking: I just talked in class, why did the teacher ask me to be stood? If I go out to be stood and am seen by the schoolmates of other classes, won’t I lose my face? At that moment, I wanted to talk back to my teacher again, but I suddenly thought that if I did so, it was the revealing of arrogance. Thinking of this, I kept my temper under control and then went out of the classroom quietly. When I stood outside, I was still out of balance in my heart, feeling that I did nothing wrong. So I quickly quieted my heart and prayed to God: “O God, today I am stood, but I feel unconvinced, so I can’t truly obey this. May You lead and help me so that I can obey this.” After my prayer, I calmed down and realized that I did wrong in this matter because I didn’t obey the classroom discipline in class and didn’t respect my teacher. I made nothing of my teacher’s lecturing. This was not the manner a student should have! Hence, I made a resolution secretly: From now on, I must obey the discipline in class. I can’t speak randomly. To my surprise, before long, my teacher allowed me to return to the room. Then, I started to listen attentively, no longer talking with my classmates. I knew that was God’s protection and guidance; meanwhile, I realized when I encountered things, praying to God was very important. One noon, my classmates and I were having meals in the cafeteria. As our voices were too loud, which affected other schoolmates who were having meals or having classes, the dean of students came up to us in a rage and said with his finger pointing at me: “Owen, shut up! Speak lower. Don’t bother other students. And you beside Owen. Hold your tongue.” After saying that, he left. Hearing his words, my classmates all felt very unhappy, so they started to call his nickname to laugh at him. At that time, I, who was sitting aside, also felt very upset, and I thought to myself: Why could the tone of the dean of students not be a little better? I did nothing wrong but only spoke a little louder. Thinking about this, I also wanted to call his nickname to express my dissatisfaction. But the moment I wanted to call him, I suddenly realized in my heart that God didn’t like my such behaviors, thinking: “I’ve made a resolution before God to seek to repent. Now I can’t live relying on my corrupt disposition anymore. I must practice God’s words when encountering things. Previously, when I encountered things, I would never examine myself; instead, I always thought I was right and others were wrong. Now I need to learn to recognize my own corrupt disposition.” I thought of the following words of God: “If you believe in the dominion of God, then you must believe that the things that happen every day, be they good or bad, don’t happen accidentally. It is not that someone doesn’t get on with you or opposes you on purpose; it is actually all arranged and orchestrated by God. What does God orchestrate these things for? It is not to reveal your shortcomings for everyone to see or to expose you; exposing you is not the final aim. The aim is to perfect you and save you. How does God perfect you and save you? Firstly, He makes you aware of your own corrupt disposition, your own nature and essence, your own shortcomings and what you lack. Only by knowing these things and understanding them in your heart can you cast them off. This is an opportunity for you, you must learn to seize this opportunity and know how to seize it; don’t lock horns and don’t resist. If you are always competing with the people, matters, and things that God has arranged around you, if you are always trying to extricate yourself from them, always feeling dissatisfied, always harboring a disagreeable mentality and always misunderstanding, then you will find it very difficult to enter into the truth. Through obeying, seeking, praying more, retreating to your spirit and coming before God then, unbeknownst to you, a change will happen in your inner condition.” Then, I realized: Yes, everything befalls me being arranged by God, not happening by accident. So there are surely lessons I should learn. When I quieted my heart, I thought that the reason why the attitude of the dean of students toward me was so bad was because I always made troubles, so he felt annoyed at me. I thought: My behaviors in the past were so awful, so how could others not loathe me? Moreover, the reason why the dean of students scolded me today was just because our speaking has affected other schoolmates. Being criticized was the consequence of my actions. Thinking about this, I felt very ashamed, feeling that, previously, my behaviors toward him were going too far and I was really too brash, arrogant and ignorant, and didn’t have the manner of a true person in the slightest. Therefore, I just ate meal, not following them to call his nickname. At that time, my classmates next to me all felt confused about my such quiet behavior. They shouted and asked me to join them. Hearing their words, I felt bored and didn’t want to do that; instead, I really wanted to ask them not to laugh at the dean of students anymore. But then I also thought: The nickname of him was given by me. If I tell them not to call it anymore, how will they see me? Will they…

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How Did an Undesirable Youngster Turn Over a New Leaf? (I)

My name is Owen. I’m 17 years old. When I was six or seven, my elder brother and I followed my mother to Singapore to study there. In 2014, my mother accepted God’s kingdom gospel. Under the guidance of her, my elder brother and I also accepted it. However, I only knew of God’s existence and believed that there is an Almighty One being in command of the entire universe; as for God’s will and His demands toward people, I all didn’t understand. As I have been intelligent since childhood, I could learn everything very quickly and therefore, my parents often praised me. Under such an environment, I became very proud and self-righteous, thinking I could do anything. When I first came to Singapore, as I’m a Chinese, I was often discriminated against by my classmates at school—they often jeered at my English being not good. I felt very angry by this. Therefore, I made a resolution in my heart: With my ability, I’ll surely surpass you in the future, not letting you look down on me. Afterward, I started to study hard. As expected, my grades were always among the best in every exam. So my teachers and classmates all admired me, no longer jeering at or discriminating against me. After getting to middle school, when I saw the grades of my classmates around me were all not as good as mine, I had little regard for them, feeling very pleased with myself in my heart: You’ve studied so hard yet your academic grades are not as good as mine while I didn’t study hard but can surpass you. I’ve naturally been bright and talented! Hence, I became prouder and prouder, feeling that even if I didn’t listen to the teachers attentively, I could get good marks. Later, I began to not listen carefully and also often talked with my classmates in classes. Once, when my teacher saw this, he asked me to answer a question on purpose. As I didn’t listen carefully, I couldn’t answer it at all. Being unable to answer the question in front of the whole class made me feel it was very shameful, so in order to take revenge on him, I gave him a nickname, letting the whole class laugh at him. Seeing they all did like that, I felt very pleased, thinking: Now you’ve seen how awesome I am. I dare you to pick on me from now on! Gradually, I became more and more aggressive. As long as any teacher told me of my mistakes, I would talk back to them and even scold them. In order to educate me to learn to be good, a teacher sent me to the educational section. However, I still refused to be instructed, had no regard for the dean of students and even treated getting in and out of there as an achievement; moreover, I used it to show off for my classmates. As a result, I even more felt that I was a big shot, thinking that the teachers all could do nothing to me. In this way, I became a “famous person” in my teachers’ eyes. Later on, they used many ways on me, but none worked. Hence, a teacher told my mother all the performances I made at school. After knowing I had become so bad and made waves at school, my mother felt very disappointed, so she often persuaded me to listen properly and not to make waves at school. But at that time, I couldn’t listen to her no matter what she said; instead, I felt she nagged very much, thinking: Though I’m naughty, my grades are not poor. Now I’m still young. Am I wrong in doing something I want to do? Why are there people who reason with me every day no matter whether I’m at school or at home? Bother! But I didn’t dare to be in direct opposition to my mom, so I dealt with her before her in order that she could stop nagging me earlier. After returning school, I would continue in my ways and did whatever I wanted, not keeping her teachings in my heart at all. After I got to middle school, I became more and more arbitrary and willful; besides, I also organized my classmates to stir up trouble together and bully the weaker classmates in class. Seeing there were so many classmates obeying my orders in class, I felt I was very dignified and had leadership abilities; meanwhile, I also liked this feeling of being the boss very much. One day, when I came back from school, my mother called me to the dinner table. I thought: She must nag me again. Oh! Bother! Though I was extremely unwilling to do that, I still sat at the table. What I didn’t expect was that she didn’t lecture me as she did before but said to me patiently, “In the past, I didn’t understand the truth, so I didn’t know how to educate you. Now through reading God’s words, I understand only the truth can change us. Besides, God’s words have revealed the fact of our corruption by Satan. Let’s read them together.” Then, she read some God’s words to me: “What kind of condition is this brashness and arrogance of young people? What kind of disposition is it? (They don’t listen to what other people say. They always think that they are the best.) (They don’t want to listen to others.) They don’t want to listen to others—this is one aspect of their behavior. Say it in a more detailed way and relate it to actual people, with yourself or with the people you see. What word can we use to describe the disposition this kind of person has? Arrogant. This is a kind of disposition and expression that all young people in this age group have. They are all the same. No matter what their living environment or background is like and no matter to what generation…

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