Who Put an End to the Quarrelling?

By Nana

Not long after getting married, I got pregnant so I didn’t go out to work. In the daytime, my husband went to work, and my parents-in-law were busy with farm work, but I could only stay home and be bored. Sometimes I watched TV or did some housework, but most times I had nothing to do. Consequently, I felt totally fed up, and I expected that my husband would return straight home after work to be with me. However, when he came home after work he usually went straight out to play mahjong after our evening meal. It wasn’t until midnight that he came back, and I always felt so hard done by. Every time when he arrived home, I had a go at him. What he said always sounded good and he always promised that he would no longer come back home too late. Yet he still did. Seeing he was never obedient to me, I thought: “We just got married not long ago but you treat me like this. Whatever I say doesn’t work. There’s still a long way to go in this marriage, and it looks like you won’t take any notice of me at all in the future. No, I must come up with a plan to make you thoroughly obey me.”

One night, seeing my husband return so late, I said to him angrily: “I’m not asking that you don’t play mahjong. But can’t you spend less time on it? If you go on like this, then I’ll be done with this marriage. Tomorrow I’m going back to my parent’s place.” Seeing I was really angry, he quickly apologized. But I didn’t accept his apology because I’d decided to have it out with him and settle the matter.

The next morning, I didn’t have breakfast and went back to my parents’ house. At night, my husband went to pick me up after work. He said: “This time I’ve truly realized I was wrong. I won’t go home so late any more. Please come back with me.” Hearing his repentance and considering our parents’ concern about us, I went home with him. I thought he would not play mahjong too late after that experience. However, he just kept the promise for several days. After that, I often quarreled with him with tears running down my face. I beat him and kicked up a ruckus. Both the carrot and the stick were used, but all of it was still in vain. We went through several years of quarrelling that way. During those several years, I was in mental agony. I did not know when it would end and why he did not listen to me. Just when our marriage was about to break down, God’s salvation came to my husband and me.

I saw that God’s words say: “Adam and Eve created by God in the beginning were holy people, which is to say, whilst in the Garden of Eden they were holy, untainted with filth. They were also faithful to Jehovah, and knew nothing of the betrayal of Jehovah. This is because they were without the disturbance of the influence of Satan, were without Satan’s poison, and were the purest of all mankind. They lived in the Garden of Eden, undefiled by any filth, unpossessed by the flesh, and in reverence of Jehovah. Later, when they were tempted by Satan, they had the poison of the serpent, and the desire to betray Jehovah, and they lived under the influence of Satan. In the beginning, they were holy and they revered Jehovah; only in this state were they human. Later on, after they were tempted by Satan, they ate the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and lived under the influence of Satan. They were gradually corrupted by Satan, and lost the original image of man” (“The Experiences of Peter: His Knowledge of Chastisement and Judgment”).

From God’s words I understood that the Adam and Eve created by God in the beginning had no corrupt disposition and worshiped God. Later, after being tempted and corrupted by Satan, they began to have various corrupt satanic dispositions. Furthermore, today our corrupt satanic dispositions have become more and more serious, and we humans don’t have any likeness of the man and woman created by God in the beginning. Through a period of fellowshiping about God’s words at the meetings, I knew that God’s work during the last days is to express the truth, judge, chastise and purify deeply corrupt mankind, in order that we, through reading and practicing God’s words, can shed our satanic corrupt disposition, live out the manner of true people, be taken into the kingdom and regain the life that Adam and Eve lived. This is also God’s original intention in creating man. In addition, I realized that the reason I quarreled with my husband in the past was because I had an arrogant, corrupt, satanic disposition, and wanted to take charge of him and make him listen to me. Only by reading God’s words more and practicing God’s words would I be able to achieve a transformation and then escape from the suffering. After realizing these things, I practiced consciously forsaking my corrupt, satanic dispositions by eating and drinking God’s words so that I wouldn’t live such a hard life any more. But because I was deeply corrupted by Satan and there were deep-rooted, satanic poisons inside of me, it was not easy for me to change. So, to purify and change me, God arranged a real-life situation for me.

After believing in God, my husband wanted to read God’s words more and didn’t want to play mahjong any longer. However, often he’d just have gotten home from work when his mahjong friends would call, asking him to go and play. He could not resist the allure, and usually went to play with them for the sake of saving face. Because I didn’t have knowledge of God’s work, I still wanted to change him, even giving him an ultimatum: Not to come back home if he couldn’t get home before 9:00 p.m. I also told him: “Playing mahjong is one of the worldly trends. We believers in God shouldn’t do it….” However, no matter what I said and did, all of it was still in vain.

In agony, I told my brothers and sisters about these difficulties during a gathering. Then a sister let me read a passage in the Fellowship and Preaching: “In the past, God summarized the corrupted nature of man in four words, arrogance, conceit, self-importance, and self-righteousness. This is a summary of the nature of Satan, and it is the exact image of Satan. … If you are wildly arrogant, then you will certainly regard yourself as all important; if you are wildly arrogant, then you are certainly irrational and will not listen to reason; if you are wildly arrogant, then it is certainly difficult for you to obey any person, and it is even harder for you to obey all of God’s work and God incarnate; if you are wildly arrogant, then you are unable to accept the real factual situation, and you are unable to accept the truth; … Since the wildly arrogant man is puffed up with conceit and looks down his nose at others, he is not friendly to others and is unable to treat others as equals, and he can never live in harmony with other people.” It turned out that I was dominated by my own arrogant, satanic nature, and always wanted to preserve my status before my husband and make him obey me and revolve around me. If he didn’t obey me, then I would try every way, and use both carrot and stick to discipline him such as through crying, quarreling and going to my parents’ house. I didn’t even allow him to enter our house if he returned late. Everything I did was in order to make him listen to me and accept my authority so that he wouldn’t dare to play mahjong next time. When my ambitions and desires could not be achieved, I would feel mental pain. It was entirely being harmed by and in the bonds of my corrupt, satanic disposition.

Then the sister fellowshiped this: “After being corrupted by Satan, we all become arrogant and conceited by nature and want to stand in God’s place, controlling and manipulating and changing others. This is unreasonable. God’s work is for the sake of transforming our life disposition. God permits certain situations to come upon us in order that we can rely on Him, look upon Him, pursue the truth, and pay attention to changing our life disposition. When we practice the truth and change, and have a normal relationship with God, then the people, events, and things around us will also change accordingly. Just as God’s words say: ‘Man’s heart and spirit are held in the hand of God, everything of his life is beheld in the eyes of God. Regardless of whether or not you believe this, any and all things, whether living or dead, will shift, change, renew, and disappear in accordance with God’s thoughts. Such is the way in which God presides over all things’ (“God Is the Source of Man’s Life”). God’s words are for us to practice and experience. Only by truly experiencing God’s words, can we see God’s wondrous deeds. Your husband has just accepted God’s work. He is busy with work in the daytime and has read few of God’s words. He hasn’t seen thoroughly how Satan uses this social trend, playing mahjong, to harm mankind. We should communicate the truth with your husband more so that he can understand God’s will and break free of the bonds of Satan soon. We shouldn’t continue to teach him according to our own arrogant disposition. You have taught him for so many years but he hasn’t changed. This shows that we can’t change him by ourselves. We must rely on God. Only God’s words can change people.”

Hearing the sister’s fellowshipping, I learned of God’s good intention in saving me. He permitted such a situation to come upon me in order to change my corrupt, satanic disposition and allow me to know His almightiness and sovereignty through the experience. God’s authority is supreme. Only God can transform and purify us. I had to read more of God’s words, rely on God and look up to Him with my husband to seek a change in our dispositions, as this is after God’s heart.

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Later, I saw God’s words saying: “These trends arise one after another, and they all carry an evil influence that continually debases mankind, causing people to lose conscience, humanity and reason, weakening their morals and their quality of character ever more, to the extent that we can even say that the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, and neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. … The majority of people, however, will be continually infected, assimilated, and attracted by this kind of trend in a state of unawareness, until they all unknowingly and involuntarily accept it and become submerged in it and controlled by it. One after another, such trends cause people, who are not of sound body and mind, do not know what the truth is, and cannot differentiate between positive and negative things, to happily accept them as well as the life views and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them about how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them, and they have neither the strength nor the ability, much less the awareness, to resist” (“God Himself, the Unique VI”).

After reading God’s words, I suddenly became aware that my husband was addicted to playing mahjong, because he was unconsciously affected and influenced by Satan’s evil trends, and so going to play was beyond his control. Nowadays, what is popular in Chinese society? As a man, you should smoke, drink and play mahjong. Otherwise, you are not a man and your life is not meaningful. Satan uses these various kinds of evil social trends to corrode our thoughts and spirits in order to make us follow our fleshly desires and abandon ourselves to vice. Since we were corrupted by Satan, we have lost the ability to discern the positive from the negative. And we have no exact standard of distinguishing between justice and wickedness, good and evil, beauty and ugliness. Besides, we can’t see through Satan’s sinister motives for corrupting us, so we are naturally tricked by Satan and allow ourselves to be dragged down. Satan makes us indulge in playing mahjong and other vices to destroy our resolutions little by little, and deceive and control us in order that we have no time to worship God and are ever more distant from God. Finally, we stray away from God, betray God and become people belonging to Satan that will be eliminated and destroyed by God. Thank God for His guidance and enlightenment. I have now clearly seen the tricks of Satan and the sinister motives behind its corruption of mankind. Both my husband and I are victims as well. I can’t quarrel with him because of my arrogant nature any more. At that moment, I bore him no grudge in my heart, and determined not to control him through my arrogant nature. He is also in God’s hands. I should rely on God and experience God’s words with him to resolve our corrupt satanic dispositions and overcome Satan’s cruelty and tests. Then I prayed to God to help my husband see through Satan’s scheme, break away from the evil trend as soon as possible, and escape from Satan’s fiendish talons.

One night, I woke up and found that my husband still hadn’t come back from playing mahjong. I raged against him in my mind: “You’ve really let yourself go this time. Why haven’t you returned yet? Do I mean anything to you…?” While thinking like this, I suddenly realized that my attitude was incorrect: I wanted to teach him through my arrogant nature once again. At that moment, I remembered God’s words that I saw before: “In every step of work that God does within people, externally it appears to be interactions between people, as if born of human arrangements or from human interference. But behind the scenes, every step of work, and everything that happens, is a wager made by Satan before God, and requires people to stand firm in their testimony to God. … Thus, in everything you encounter there is a battle, and when there is a battle within you, thanks to your actual cooperation and actual suffering, God works within you. Ultimately, you are able to put the matter aside inside of you and the anger is naturally extinguished. Such is the effect of your cooperation with God” (“Only Loving God Is Truly Believing in God”). I nearly fell for Satan’s tricks again. On the surface, my husband was coming back late again, but in fact it was a bet between Satan and God. God was seeing whether I would practice the truth to satisfy Him or whether I would live by Satan’s corrupt dispositions. This was the time for me to stand witness for God. So I should actually cooperate with God and shouldn’t let Satan’s scheme succeed. Having gained some knowledge of God’s will, I prayed to God silently to lead me to break through the shackles of Satan’s dark influence and live within God’s words. After the prayer, I gradually got rid of my anger.

Then, my husband came back. I did not blow up, but spoke calmly with him. He said in surprise: “I thought you would take it out on me as usual. I never thought that you’d change. You don’t know, but in fact, when playing mahjong, I didn’t feel peaceful within and felt my conscience was condemning me. I know God hates this kind of behavior, but I can never control myself.” Hearing this, I again saw Satan’s hatefulness, and said to him: “I’m dominated by my arrogant satanic nature, and always lose my cool with you. Through reading God’s words and praying to God, I have understood that you are also influenced by social trends and are being harmed by Satan. I’m not angry with you. God’s words are the truth and are the sole and most powerful weapon with which we can overcome Satan. As long as we rely on God more, read more of God’s words and practice God’s words, God will help us escape from the bondage of Satan. God is almighty and wise. Nothing is difficult for Him. Let’s pray to God.” He nodded firmly.

Later, we prayed, read God’s words and communicated God’s will together whenever we had time. Through such practical cooperation, my husband gradually abandoned his habit of going to play mahjong.

One afternoon, as soon as he entered the door after work, I heard his phone ring. It was one of his friends inviting him over for dinner and a game of mahjong afterward. Hearing this, my heart jumped again: I was worried that my husband would not resist the temptation and would go to play mahjong. So I prayed to God silently in my heart: “O God. Whether my husband goes out to play mahjong is in Your control. I’m willing to commit him to You. May You protect his heart so that he won’t fall for Satan’s scheme.” Meanwhile, I saw my husband hesitated for a moment with his phone in his hand and then replied: “Bro, tonight I have work to do. I’m afraid I can’t go. Enjoy yourselves tonight!” When hearing what he said, my heart was finally released from its anguish. My husband and I smiled. From then on, he didn’t go out to play mahjong anymore. Gradually, his mahjong friends no longer asked him to play. After that, our family was immersed in a happiness we had never had before. As my son gradually got older, he also accepted God’s gospel of the last days. Now we often fellowship about God’s words together. No matter what problems we face in life, we all resolve them relying on God’s words. With the guidance of God’s words in our life, our family is full of harmony and happiness.

One day, my son was chatting with me. He said: “Mom, imagine what would happen in our family if we all didn’t believe in God? You would often quarrel with my dad, and I, like other children, would play games on the Internet and never listen to you. Isn’t that right?” Hearing this, I said with a smile: “Yes, in the past, I always wanted to change your father’s pastimes by my own will power. But there was never much change even though I cudgeled my brains, and I made myself exhausted and tired. I was too arrogant. After we started to believe in God and lived according to God’s words, I stopped feeling bitter and your father no longer played mahjong. I really saw that only God’s words have authority and power. God’s words not only changed me, but also changed your father. It was God that saved our family and made it full of happiness. Thank God!”

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